Have you ever confided in someone at work, only to discover what you shared got spread to other people?
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You just had a conversation in which you agreed to do something. You made a commitment. How do you want the other person to feel, as they walk away from you?
Did you watch the Olympiad rowing races? We were just talking with a client whose son was at one time an Olympic rowing hopeful.
When he competed at the national level, he had to earn his spot on the team not by how well he performed, but by how well the crew performed when he was a part of it.
Olympic rowing crews have eight athletes who’re nearly identical. Raw skill, talent, physical strength – there’s not much difference among them.
The competitions are 1.24 miles. The margin by which those races are won or lost?
What do you suppose allows the winning boat to pull ahead?
Rhythm. Chemistry. Teamwork.
Technical skill? Tenacity? Strength? Not enough. Olympic rowers make the cut by tuning in to how their individual efforts contribute to – or get in the way of – the team’s objective. By being empathetic.
By caring more about the boat than themselves.
Does this sound like your team? Or is your team not that in sync – yet?
Your team can develop this level – a world class level – of teamwork. Working with other people fluidly, collaboratively, trustingly is a skill. An acquirable skill. A skill you can lead the people in your team to acquire – through working this week’s Trust Tip:
Helping people learn new skills is a behavior that builds Trust of Capability. You can use this Tip to support people to develop a range of new skills. In my experience, the skill people need the most support to master is building and sustaining high trust, highly collaborative relationships that produce results.
This Tip will help you take a step to master that skill…and help others take a step to master it, as well.
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Yours in trust,
Dennis Reina, PhD
Do you consistently ‘nail’ every conversation you have at work?
After talking to you, do people always, without fail, walk away with…
Handing over the reigns.
Letting other people take control.
Encouraging them to call the shots.
Easier said than done, right? Especially when the stakes have gotten so high, the margins so slim, and the competition so fierce.
Every day, from the time we wake up and our feet hit the floor, we are managing expectations. Expectations others have of us. And, expectations we have of them.
People often tell me how much they need to be able to count on one another to come through, particularly during this period of doing more with less.
Think about it for a moment. When you do what you said you’d do, you give people concrete evidence that you can be trusted. Trust is your relationships’ adhesive. Without it, everything gets harder and takes longer.